Why deep conversations, flow states & peak experiences share the same quality..
And what it means for "you"..
Deep conversations, flow states & peak experiences..
These are some of THE most satisfying moments in our lives.
Yet, they are often fleeting.
Worse yet, they perhaps don’t occur as often as we’d like.
But there are some tricks you can use to reliably enter these states
(Btw - I define a peak experience as a moment of extreme beauty
- like watching a sunset, or suddenly seeing a stunning view - Something breathtaking)
But first..
What quality do they all share?
I asked this question on Twitter.
People gave a variety of answers.
”Presence” “Enjoyment” “Chemicals”
Close.
It’s something more fundamental, though.
It’s to do with this:
How AWARE you are of YOU
Think about it..
When you see a beautiful sunset..
You’re not thinking about your problems, anxieties and what’s for dinner
The beauty & depth of the moment fills your awareness..
YOU disappear
YOU are no longer part of the equation
There’s a sense of unity
Perhaps even of love
A sense that everything is right & correct..
As it should be
So what can you learn from this?
What does this point to?
A simple truth:
The less “YOU” there is in your awareness..
The more joy, connectedness & love you feel
The more efficient you become
The more ease you feel..
Not invaded by negative thoughts, or feelings of unease..
But..
Let’s flip that on it’s head..
When you’re in a very UNPLEASANT state
Anxious or nervous..angry etc..
What’s dominating your awareness?
It’s YOU YOU YOU
YOUR FEELINGS, YOUR EMOTIONS
Everything is heavy and solid
Things feel tense, constricted, uncomfortable
This IS the path..
Gradually letting go of the “YOUNESS”
Moving from “I AM XYZ”
To simply “I AM”
Now..
I know on Twitter I said I’d show you to 10x these experiences..
And I will.
Just next week.
Digest this first.
Next time you feel really caught up in a feeling of anxiety, jealousy, anger or imposter syndrome..
Notice how the YOUNESS dominates your awareness…
Gently let go
A powerful way to do this is to simply say “I AM”
I exist
Nothing more
Nothing less
Allow that to melt your YOUNESS away, and bring you back into space & clarity